One of Klosterman’s ideas is that fake love gives an
unrealistic picture of how life should be. Couples in movies give unrealistic ideas
of how people should act and be like. John Cusack is an example of fake love.
He is young, attractive, and has a perfect relationship with a girl one summer.
They end up running away together and live “happily ever after.” The concept of
happily ever after is another idea of fake love.
Another example of unrealistic love
is the characters in Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele
have an intimate relationship strictly based on sex then they fall into a
romantic affair. This is unrealistic because they are both attractive,
successful people who end up getting what they want in the end which is each
other.
Cory and Topanga from Boy Meets
World are another example. They are the perfect couple. They were best friends
then dated throughout high school and college. Then they got married and lived
happily ever after.
This fantasy of perfect is another
idea of Klostermans. Our fantasy is having the “one” and that person will
change our lives for the better. Klosterman talks about marrying for love but
in reality it’s not necessarily easier or makes you happier. Marriage takes
work. You will fight, argue, love, cry, and laugh.
Another
idea of Klosterman’s is that both partners will never be satisfied due to high
expectation of love. These expectations set us up to fail. We are all about
showing off and caring what people think of us. With all that stress, people
are not happy which causes conflict with love. In reality, if people stopped
listening to others and went with their own heart things would be better.
I totally agree with you. There is not such thing as happily ever after because no relationship is perfect. Any relationship takes work. I like the examples you used because they hit the point right on.
ReplyDeleteI like your example of Cory and Tapanga from "Boy Meets World" exemplifying what fake love is. I've watched that show religiously and they do often refer to each other as the other's "soul mate" and claim that they were always meant to be together. No matter what happens, they always end up back together and more in love than ever before. (Sometimes even with a big "make out sesh" in the rain to top it off) We all know that in reality, this doesn't always happen and sometimes people do break up or lose feelings for someone they thought they'd love forever and it is permanent.
ReplyDeleteI most definitely agree with your 50 Shades of Grey example. I thought of using that example as well, because of your reasoning of how they are both attractive and meet in such an unlikely manner. I also think that the financial position of Christian Grey is another aspect of 'fake love'. Money is not an issue for either of them, which is completely unrealistic in the real world.
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